Introduction
If youโve ever visited a war memorial, the chances are good that youโve seen some kind of coin on graves or even sticking in the divots of a name carved in the stone. And before you ask: No, someone did NOT forget their lunch money atop the grave of a fallen comrade.
This isnโt an arbitrary practice, nor is it a new thing. Putting coins on graves has an incredibly rich history that spans way, waaayyy back, even to ancient Greece. Want to know more about this fascinating practice? Donโt stop scrolling!
Why Do People Put Coins on Graves?
History of Grave Money: The Underworld & The River Styx
So why do people put coins on graves? The modern practice of putting coins on headstones can be traced back AT LEAST over 3,000 years ago to ancient Greece. As with pretty much everything involving Greeks of the time period, it related strongly to the Greek gods and Greek mythology. If the words โUnderworldโ and โRiver Styxโ ring any bell in your mind, then youโve got a good basis for understanding the meaning of putting coins on Veteran graves today.
It sounds like something out of a macabre, thrilling Halloween tale. In short, the Underworld was recognized in Greece as the place where everyone went when they died. Before the dead arrived, however, theyโd have to cross the River Styx with the help of its ferryman, also known as Charon. However, the ferryman needed a toll to ferry people to the other side. Are you connecting the dots yet?
Peopleโs loved ones did not want their deceased family members to be stranded on the other side of the Styx after they passed on, so the living would place coins in either the mouth or on the eyes of the dead. While we canโt imagine this was a particularly enjoyable final meal, it did mean that the dead could cross over with money to pay the ferryman. Usually, this money would be a Greek obol, a round-ish silver piece of currency similar to a quarter or dime.
This practice soon spread throughout western Europe and the New East, and many places and people have created their own adaptations of the tradition, which eventually paved the way for us to put coins on graves of military members.
Modern Meaning
As with everything, the meaning has been transformed by modern customs and beliefs over time. Though the idea of an Underworld and death-river sounds, frankly, awesome as hell, the current practice doesnโt exactly carry that same meaning.
For the most part, seeing coins on military graves means that someone has visited that grave and paid their respects to the dead. Itโs also a way to let the family know that someone is thinking of them and their loved one. Depending on the type of coin, however, the meaning can change.
Coin Denominations
Pennies
Why do people put pennies on graves? Pennies on graves symbolize respect and remembrance, and this makes them the most common coins youโll find on graves. They show that a person has visited the grave and given their thoughts and respects to the fallen military member.
Nickels
A nickel could symbolize that you knew the military member because you trained together at boot camp.
Dime
Seeing a dime on a grave could mean that the person who visited served directly alongside the military member.
Quarter
Quarters often imply that you were present when the military member passed away.
Challenge Coins
People also sometimes leave behind challenge coins on graves of fallen military members. Challenge coins are unique, coin-like medallions that usually display the emblem of a specific unit or military branch and can represent camaraderie. Itโs common to leave a challenge coin of the deceased personโs military branch on top of their grave.
Etiquette
Should you do anything if you see coins on graves? NO. Itโs not a rancid bottle of milk or pile of dog you-know-what that someone disrespectfully left behind. Donโt touch any coins you see on a grave. Now that you know the meaning behind it, you know that it wasnโt an accident.
Donโt be an a*shole. Donโt be a grave robber.
What if you want to leave coins on graves at a military memorial site? Do it! Simply take a penny, or other denomination that represents your relationship to the deceased, and place it atop the headstone. Donโt throw it, kick it, flick it, or spit it out. Donโt make it some big event. Do it respectfully and quietly. Shall we say it again? Donโt be an a*shole about it.
If youโre unsure that youโll be permitted to place coins on graves at a certain memorial or gravestone, you can always look it up online beforehand. Most memorial web pages or social profiles will have a note about whether or not leaving coins on graves is allowed at that particular site (for example, you are permitted to leave coins at gravestones in Arlington National Cemetery).
Traditions Similar to Coins on Graves
Ancient Egyptians
Speaking of grave robbers! Itโs pretty common knowledge that many members of ancient Egyptian royalty were buried with tons of gold, jewelry, and other goods. It was believed that they could take all their wealth and material goods with them into the afterlife, including their precious pet cats.
Jewish Faith
People who are a part of the Jewish faith often put rocks around the graves of their loved ones. You may not find flowers on the graves of people who were Jewish for several reasons. Some Jewish authorities view flowers on graves as a pagan symbol or believe the use of flowers on graves to be a waste. Finally, to certain members of the faith, it counteracts the egalitarian nature of death. Then why stones? Because stones best represent an altar and its offerings to God, and stone has a ton of important roles to play in the Hebrew Bible.
Scandinavia
Grave blankets are still a pretty common practice. Donโt misinterpret this; grave blankets arenโt plush throws that you drape over a tombstone. Grave blankets are evergreen plant arrangements that are planted in front of a tombstone. The origins supposedly come from Scandinavia, where people would place these natural blankets over their loved onesโ graves to tuck them in for their eternal sleep and keep them warm during winter months.
Conclusion
Putting coins on graves is hardly a new or original concept. What is nowadays? Just because it isnโt new or original, though, doesnโt mean it isnโt still immensely rich in its meaning. If you plan on making trips to visit Veteran memorials, weโd definitely encourage you to place a penny as you think of the sacrifices they made so that you could stand where you are today.
It might cost you a cent, but it cost them a lot more.
Related read: The Meaning of Veterans Day: A Combat Veteranโs Perspective